Adorkable Musings

Do I believe that there is such a thing as fate/destiny? Yes and no.  When I was younger, I remembered that I would pray so hard for the thing I wanted.  I would keep that prayer close to my heart.  I wouldn’t tell a soul.  Most of the time, I was disappointed; nothing happened.  My anxiety and depression would make me feel like I didn’t deserve or need the things I prayed for.  I remember being in church, and what stuck in my mind was being grateful for where you are. It could be so much worse. 

Over time, my view on prayer and church changed.  I am still a practicing Christian, but my approach differs significantly.  I remember talking to a relative, and I told her I had had an epiphany.  Prayer does nothing if you don’t also put in the work.  In 2018, I got laid off from a job I had moved to Atlanta to take.  I was upset.  I had never been fired or let go from a job. Luckily, it was a different time; I had just gotten my tax refund.  After some budgeting, I concluded that I had until the end of April (it was the end of March). I put in applications, updated my LinkedIn, and ensured my resume was perfect.  By the end of the month, I had a temp job that led to a full-time job.  Prayer, fate, destiny, if anything had been done differently, none of this would have happened. 

Over thing, I had to become more precise with the things I wanted.  Yes, I still pray, but I also manifest what I want.  Like this blog, it took me a year to get started.  Mostly, there were other things that I wanted to complete before I took this on.  I knew I would have to be very serious about it once I started.  I wanted to ensure that I posted at least once a week and that my topics were fun and light. I might have to do a blog post that is not so bright, but this is my happy place.

I feel like people use fate as a way to justify something that they shouldn’t do.  Take unnecessary risks, cheat on their partner, and do something illegal.  Romeo and Julia believed in fate; look at how they ended up.  Destiny, however, is a little different.  Destiny is almost like a wish being manifested.  My destiny is to travel around the world. My destiny is to do my best to be happy.  You have a bit of control over what will happen.  It doesn’t mean your destiny is over if it doesn’t work out.  It must be reworked, or a different approach can be tried.

I am still learning and growing, so I may add more life lessons one day.  Thank you for reading.  Please feel free to like and leave a comment.